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This is a great passage for the broken-hearted:

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted;
he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.
--Psalm 34:18

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Broken Things

Morning after Mourning

This week's Basta LoveLife show is online!

In This Episode:
"How do I move on after my boyfriend's death?" and "How to deal with break ups."

Just visit the Podcast Page http://kuyakevin.libsyn.com to download.

If You Don't Know Me By Now, Simply Red cover.

This is one of those times where a cover version does justice to the original song.

Hey guys, just thought I'd let you know our Radio Show/Podcast seems to be growing.  Pictured here are the stats as of today.  Over 700 downloads last month, and over 600 at the midway point of this month--Praise God!  I'm really pleased to see this--especially considering we don't really have any advertising (except for blogs and the show itself, which airs in Baguio). 

Anyway, just want to thank everyone who is listening.  We really hope the show is helping you make good decisions. 

Thess has written a fantastic article--check it out: Why Wait 'til Marriage? 

In this episode:
"The Clueless and the Careless" (we elaborate on my previous blog post).
"Basted! Unreciprocated Love"

Just go to the podcast page (http://kuyakevin.libsyn.com) to download. 

I’ve already explained my convictions about kissing.  You can read them here: To Kiss or Not to Kiss?

I feel the need to talk about this a little more.  Why?  Well, I’m encountering people who are guilty over breaking man-made rules.  They’ve been told kissing before marriage is a sin.  Sorry, but this just isn’t in the Bible.

“But Kevin, kissing can be dangerous and lead to sexual sin,” you may argue.  Yes, I addressed that in my article. 

But let me remind you of something that is equally dangerous—adding to God’s commandments.

Didn’t Jesus rebuke the Pharisees for loading people down with extra-biblical burdens (Luke 11:46)?  Didn’t Paul say, “Do not go beyond what is written”? (1st Corinthians 4:6).  Do we believe the Bible is sufficient or not?

I completely understand those who want to save their first kiss for the altar.  I also understand those who decide not to kiss again until they are married.  As I’ve said, this is a wise and honorable decision. 

But let’s be careful about treating our personal convictions as though they were God’s commandments.  We have no right to do so. 

This is love for God: to obey his commands. And his commands are not burdensome . . . 
-1st John 3:5

Related Post:
Purity: Pendulum vs Plumbline

Susan Boyle is 47, unemployed, lives alone (except for her cat), and has never been kissed.   No one would have guessed she had such talent.  See what happened when she took a chance on Britain's Got Talent.

Susan Boyle's Tryout

I love it when the underdog wins!

Here's a request that came to my email:

I am Aubrey Dela Cruz, a researcher from the show The Beat which is a news/magazine program that airs every Monday nights on Chanell 11. We are doing a feature segment called "Love Conquers All" which will showcase couples who've faced different struggles/challenges in their relationships. I came across your website and I would like to seek for your help for possible referrals of couples that we can possibly interview. Hoping for your kind consideration. Thank you very much.

Interested?  Just email her: aubrey_gma (at) yahoo (dot) com

I Will Love You, by Fisher



As far as I'm concerned, this is the greatest love song of all time.

There's also a neat story behind this band: Fisher became successful because of internet downloads.  They built their fan base and career without going through the traditional music industry machine. 

Here's their website:  http://fishertheband.com

Here are a few of my previous post related to Holy Week and the resurrection of Christ:

Holy Week Reflections: Love is Not a Feeling

Jesus: Resurrected One

The "Lost Tomb of Jesus"

Watchman Nee: The Cost of Believing in the Resurrection

Erwin and I discuss dealing with past sexual sins.  Here are a few questions we deal with:
"Where do I stand with God?"
"How will my past afftect my future relationships?"
"When and what do I tell my girlfriend/ boyfriend about my past?"

Just go to the podcast page (http://kuyakevin.libsyn.com) to download.  Don't forget, you can also download this podcast through iTunes.  Just search for Basta LoveLife. 

I regularly hear from those with broken hearts and broken lives.  Sometimes it’s an email from a young adult who read my book.  Sometimes it is a text message from a student in distress.  Sometimes I have no idea how an individual got my contact information.  

I’ve noticed something.  It seems most of the broken-hearted fall into one of two categories:

I’ll call the first category the clueless.  Clueless people are spiritually lost.  They grew up with little or no understanding of purity and wisdom.  They probably had some vague idea of “it’s better to wait,” but this isn’t enough in our world.  Their relationship decisions were ultimately based on undisciplined passion and misguided notions. 

Unfortunately, ignorance does not protect us from consequences of sexual sin.  The clueless often contact me in the midst of tremendous pain.  Sin, while pleasurable for a season, always leads to long-term suffering.

But there’s another type of person I hear from all too often.  These individuals have learned about God’s standards of purity. They have committed themselves to Christ.  Many of them grew up in a Christian church, and some are even actively involved in ministry.  Despite all of this, they end up making the same decisions as the clueless.  Some of their stories, in fact, turn out to be most scandalous. 

How does this happen?  Well, I’ll call this second group the careless.  As the name implies, they simply let their guards down.  Instead of fleeing sexual temptation, they walked right into it (see 2nd Timothy 2:22; 1st Corinthians 6:18).  They embraced the idea of purity, but failed miserably in practical application.

The stories of the careless make me think of Paul’s warning to the Corinthians:

So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall!
-1st Corinthians 10:12

With all of this in mind, let me leave you with a few admonitions: 

1. Just one mistake can be incredibly costly.  This is especially true when it comes to sexual sin.  If you believe this, live your life accordingly. 

2.  No one is above temptation.  If you think there’s something you would “never do,” please think again.

3.  Purity doesn’t happen by accident.  If you want to keep your purity, guard it!

These are some of my final thoughts in Learning the Hard Way: True Stories of Heartbreak, Healing, and Hope (I expanded upon this post for the book).